Learning How To Be Kind To Yourself

A Treat-Cakes Made By Someone Else, Rocking Dog

A Treat-Cakes Made By Someone Else

Life has been somewhat fraught in the Rocking Dog Kennel. Dealing with the social, physical and health needs of an elderly relative can be so exasperating. Obviously, this care need is not in isolation. There are so many other things and indeed people, which are in life’s rich and diverse eclectic mix. Therefore this weekend I attempted to batten down the hatches, regroup and gather my strength. It’s often difficult learning how to be kind to yourself. Women in particular can feel very guilty about taking time out. It’s almost unheard of to hear a woman say “Do you fancy 36 holes next week?!”

Saturday I did a very spontaneous drive to Box, Wiltshire to the lovely Vintage Jumble. Stallholders were friendly (especially lovely, lovely Katherine) and organisers Jayne Soule and Michele Mountstephen couldn’t have been kinder. The Malteser Tiffin was truly delicious, and do you know the very best thing about it? It was that I hadn’t made it- a real treat! Although I arrived midway through the sale there were still lovely things to buy. I particularly loved the Winnie the Pooh fabric and a nostalgic 1960’s wooden tuck shop which I have squirreled away. There are also some odd dolls, one which I rather think must be a Holy Communion doll, more bilge for the kids to clear out when i’m old and crusty! I enjoyed the drive back listening to my dreamboat Bill Turnbull on Classic FM. Life was definitely looking up. Not the keenest of drivers I however, would have liked to have kept on driving, just me and Bill!

Domestic stuff occupied the remainder of the day. No TV, no radio, just me and my duster. Yes this really is me being kind to myself! I then embarked on cleaning brass and silver… it really is strangely calming for the soul, and polished picture frames, door knobs and beds are so satisfyingly shiny! In the evening Andyman was off piping, so it was just me and the dog. How soothing to stroke the loyal but everso slightly grumpy Real Live Rocking Dog.

I am ashamed to say it was a real pyjama day on Sunday, with more domestic stuff done in peace. Flowers picked from the garden, a glass of wine, a foamy scented bath and I feel as if I have been kind to myself. The house is cleaner and that ultimately makes me feel happier. The ironing pile remains perilously high, but nights where sleep doesn’t come easily will soon sort that!

So….. I’m ready for whatever the week throws at me. Mother In Law, I don’t have a wooden heart, be kind to me!

What are the things you do to be kind to YOURSELF? Please tell all. Have a lovely week. Love Rocking Dog x

PS. Special thanks to Clive R. You were SO thoughtful, reassuring and logical.

Vintage Pooh Purchase, Rocking Dog

Vintage Pooh Purchase

Kitsch Puzzle Brooches, Rocking Dog

Kitsch Puzzle Brooches

Odd Dolls, Rocking Dog

Odd Dolls

A Walk In The Park, Rocking Dog

A Walk In The Park

Brass Polishing, Calming For The Soul

Brass Polishing, Calming For The Soul

I Don't Have A Wooden Heart!, Rocking Dog

I Don’t Have A Wooden Heart!

2 Thoughts on “Learning How To Be Kind To Yourself

  1. Dear lovely Liz,

    What a joyful and heart warming blog, it was wonderful to read it this morning. You are so kind, and I so enjoyed our chat. Could have talked more with malteser tiffin and coffee!

    Have had a sodden walk with our lovely furry friend and even contemplated getting my sewing machine out! That hasn’t happened yet as I am off to the dentist! I will do!

    Inspired by your descriptions of dusting and polishing with no radio, silence is definitely underrated.

    I am hoping I might lie on my bed and read for an hour, as find this relaxing and fits in to your description of being kind to myself. I am feeling like a breakfast with a friend too!

    Hope to meet you again, and would ADORE to come to your next sale.

    Lots of love,

    Katherine xx

    PS I am putting my blog address in your website space.

    • After another morning at Southmead Hospital how lovely Katherine to receive your friendly message. Don’t just come to one of my sales come and sell! Thank you for kind comments about blog, makes it all feel worthwhile. If you fancy a dog walk in this area with the family (we are on the Frome Valley walkway) come and join us for tea and cake. I’m hoping Real Live Rocking Dog would be cheery! Liz x

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